Dear Kids:
Thank you for sharing with us about telling your
friends you were adopted. Most of you (83%) said your good friends
know. And 90% of kids whose good friends know told the friends themselves.
The others kids' parents told the friends.
17% of the kids who answered
said their good friends don't know. They were concerned that their
friends might make fun of them, that it might make things awkward,
or they just felt it wasn't anybody's business.
Here are some of the things
you told us:
Friends Said:
"Cool, you have two families!"
"You are? You are lying!"
"Oh really? You look so
much like your mom I didn't know that."
"Well that is great that
you feel great and you have a new family. But I feel sorry for the
other kids that do not get adopted."
Just asked ?s and thought
it was cool.
Nothing. It didn't matter.
Here's what you told us
about your friends…
They basically accepted
me for who I am, because as you get older people rarely care about
your background, culture, race, religion, etc… Besides, as far as
I'm concerned, if they can't accept me for who I really am, then
why should I bother wasting my time[with them]?
They asked me tons of questions,
questions that I hear every time a person learns that I am adopted.
They are afraid to ask because they think I will burst out in tears
or something similar. It seems very strange to them, like they can't
really picture themselves in the same situation…. I am proud and
happy of being adopted, and I don't mind talking about it, as long
as the questions people ask me are reasonable. And mostly they are.
At first some of them didn't
believe me, but when I showed them a picture they did believe me.
Then they started asking all these questions.
My friends were shocked;
some of them treated me differently. Not all of them. And some were
happy for me.
Some felt mad I didn't
tell them sooner, others understood.
My friends say very cool
and different culture for them and great experience for them.
I didn't tell all my good
friends. I only told my best friend and one of my good friends in
school. That was it. And my best friend I grew up with so she always
knew. Since my mom told her mom when we were really little. And
my friend at school, I just told her one day I was adopted…. (And
we never talked about it again.)
They said that they kinda
thought so because I was black and my parents were white.
They already knew, because
I am black and my mom is white, but I told them so they would understand.
Most of my friends think
it's cool. Some of my friends feel sorry for me but I don't. My
family is tight!.
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